Check it out:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Vidéo mignonne sur des juste de LGBT en Irlande !
Automatically translated into French thanks to WorldLingo
Vérifiez-le dehors :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

¡Vídeo lindo en las derechas de LGBT en Irlanda!
Automatically translated into Spanish thanks to WorldLingo
Compruébelo hacia fuera:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Video Cute sui diritti di LGBT in Irlanda!
Automatically translated into Italian thanks to WorldLingo
Controllilo fuori:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Netter Bildschirm auf LGBT Rechten in Irland!
Automatically translated into German thanks to WorldLingo
Überprüfen Sie es heraus:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Vídeo Cute em direitas de LGBT em Ireland!
Automatically translated into Portuguese thanks to WorldLingo
Verifique-o para fora:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Gullig video på LGBT-rätter i Irland!
Automatically translated into Swedish thanks to WorldLingo
Kontrollera det ut:),

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Cute видеоий на правах LGBT в Ирландии!
Automatically translated into Russian thanks to WorldLingo
Проверите его вне:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Leuke Video op Rechten LGBT in Ierland!
Automatically translated into Dutch thanks to WorldLingo
Controle het uit:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

فيديو جذّابة على [لغبت] حقوق في أيرلندا!
Automatically translated into Arabic thanks to WorldLingo
فحصت هو خارجا:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ULdaSrYGLQ

Rules: Using only song names from ONE ARTIST, cleverly answer these questions.

Pick your Artist? Tegan and Sara

Are you a male or female? City Girl

Describe yourself? Paperback Head

How do you feel? Emaculate

Describe where you currently live? Just Me

If you could go anywhere, where would you go? Take Me Anywhere

Your favorite form of transportation? Hop a Plane

Your best friend is? Left me to Wonder

What's the weather like? Terrible Storm

Favorite time of day? Night Watch

If your life was a TV show, what would it be called? Dancing in the Dark

What is life to you? Beauty

Your fear? Empty in Between

What is the best advice you have to give? Don't be Cruel

Thought for the Day? Don't Rush

How would you like to die? Proud

My soul's current condition? Hype

My motto:

had a bad day as bad as they come
time to get a real job you gotta stop having fun
so I got a real job I'm working nine to nine
I'm making five bucks an hour 'til the day I die
got a straw inside of me and it's filled just fine
got a straw inside of me with the strongest wine
I'm one third passion I'm two thirds pride
said I used to have a life once
he said I used to like your smile once
singing silence to the world
but the stars kept marching
he said silence to everyone I said I'm still talking
have you got some more deep inside of you
I'll always have more for me
I take a little more for me baby
I got a picture of the way the world has summed me up
if I could have one wish I sure wish that
I had never grown up
I got a picture of the way I looked when I was three
I came out laughing screaming dancing
I used to be free spirited
now I'm just free of sleep
I got a burning passion in my throat
I got a burning passion inside me
and all the things I wanted
yes all the things I want
go on and on and on and on
on and on and on and on
well I go on
silence to the world but the stars keep marching
silence to everyone but I kept talking
have you got some more deep inside of you
yes I'll always have more more me
he says all the things I want they go
so I, I take a little more for me

Tracy Chapman -- Talkin' Bout a Revolution

Don't you know you're talking about a revolution
It sounds like a whisper
Don't you know they're talking about a revolution
It sounds like a whisper

While they're standing in the welfare lines
Crying at the doorsteps of those armies of salvation
Wasting time in unemployment lines
Sitting around waiting for a promotion

Don't you know you're talking about a revolution
It sounds like a whisper

Poor people are gonna rise up
And get their share
Poor people are gonna rise up
And take what's theirs

Don't you know you better run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run
Oh I said you better run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run, run

Finally the tables are starting to turn
Talking about a revolution
Finally the tables are starting to turn
Talking about a revolution oh no
Talking about a revolution oh no

While they're standing in the welfare lines
Crying at the doorsteps of those armies of salvation
Wasting time in unemployment lines
Sitting around waiting for a promotion

Don't you know you're talking about a revolution
It sounds like a whisper

And finally the tables are starting to turn
Talking about a revolution
Finally the tables are starting to turn
Talking about a revolution oh no
Talking about a revolution oh no
Talking about a revolution oh no

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Parfois je souhaite que j'aie écrit cette chanson
Automatically translated into French thanks to WorldLingo
Colporteur de Tracy -- Accès de Talkin par révolution

Vous ne vous connaissez pas parlez d'une révolution que
cela ressemble à d'un chuchotement
vous ne les savent pas parlent d'une révolution
cela ressemble à d'un chuchotement

tandis qu'ils se tiennent dans les lignes d'assistance sociale
pleurant aux seuils de ces armées de salut
perdant le temps dans des lignes du chômage
se reposant autour d'attendre une promotion

vous ne vous connaissent pas parlent d'une révolution
cela ressemble à d'un chuchotement

les pauvres personnes vont se lever vers le haut
et obtenir à leur part
les pauvres personnes vont se lever vers le haut
et prendre ce qui est à eux

vous ne vous connaît pas court mieux, courez, courez, courez, courez, courez, courez, courez, courez, courez, courez, la course, l'OH
couru I a indiqué que vous mieux courez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, fonctionnez, course

enfin que les tables commencent à tourner
parler d'une révolution
enfin les tables commencent à tourner
parler d'une révolution OH aucun
parler d'une révolution OH aucun

moment elles se tiennent dans les lignes d'assistance sociale
pleurant aux seuils de ces armées de salut
perdant le temps dans des lignes du chômage
se reposant autour d'attendre une promotion

vous ne vous connaissent pas parlent d'une révolution
cela ressemble à d'un chuchotement

et finalement les tables commencent à tourner
parler d'une révolution
enfin les tables commencent à tournez
parler d'une révolution OH aucun
parler d'une révolution OH aucun
parler d'une révolution OH aucun

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Deseo a veces que había escrito esta canción
Automatically translated into Spanish thanks to WorldLingo
Chapman de Tracy -- Combate de Talkin a la revolución

Usted no le conoce está hablando de una revolución que
suena como un susurro
usted no los sabe está hablando de una revolución
suena como un susurro

mientras que están estando parados en las líneas del bienestar
que gritan en los umbrales de esos ejércitos de la salvación
que pierden tiempo en las líneas del desempleo
que se sientan alrededor de esperar una promoción

usted no le conocen están hablando de una revolución
suena como un susurro

la gente pobre va a levantarse para arriba
y conseguir a su parte
la gente pobre va a levantarse para arriba
y tomar cuál es la suya

usted no le conoce funciona mejor, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, el funcionamiento, el Oh
funcionado I dijo que usted funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona, que funciona mejor, funcionamiento

finalmente que las tablas están comenzando a dar vuelta
a hablar de una revolución
finalmente las tablas están comenzando a dar vuelta
a hablar de una revolución oh ningún
hablar de una revolución oh ningún

rato están estando paradas en las líneas del bienestar
que gritan en los umbrales de esos ejércitos de la salvación
que pierden tiempo en las líneas del desempleo
que se sientan alrededor de esperar una promoción

usted no le conocen están hablando de una revolución
suena como un susurro

y finalmente las tablas están comenzando a dar vuelta
a hablar de una revolución
finalmente las tablas están comenzando a dé vuelta
a hablar de una revolución oh ningún
hablar de una revolución oh ningún
hablar de una revolución oh ningún

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

A volte desidero che avevo scritto questa canzone
Automatically translated into Italian thanks to WorldLingo
Chapman del Tracy -- Periodo di Talkin un il giro

Non li conoscete state parlando di un giro che
suona come un bisbiglio
voi non li conosce sta parlando di un giro
suona come un bisbiglio

mentre stanno levando in piedi nelle linee di assistenza sociale
che gridano ai gradini della porta di quegli eserciti di salvezza
che sprecano il tempo nelle linee di disoccupazione
che si siedono intorno ad aspettare una promozione

voi non li conoscono stanno parlando di un giro
suona come un bisbiglio

la povera gente sta andando aumentare in su
ed ottenere alla loro parte
la povera gente sta andando aumentare in su
e prendere che cosa è loro

voi non li conosce più meglio funziona, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, funzioni, il funzionamento, l'OH
funzionato I ha detto che più meglio funzionate, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funziona, funzionamento

infine le tabelle stanno cominciando girare
parlare di un giro
infine le tabelle stanno cominciando girare
parlare di un giro OH nessun
parlare di un giro OH nessun

istante stanno levando in piedi nelle linee di assistenza sociale
che gridano ai gradini della porta di quegli eserciti di salvezza
che sprecano il tempo nelle linee di disoccupazione
che si siedono intorno ad aspettare una promozione

voi non li conoscono stanno parlando di un giro
suona come un bisbiglio

ed infine le tabelle stanno cominciando girare
parlare di un giro
infine le tabelle stanno iniziando a giri
parlare di un giro OH nessun
parlare di un giro OH nessun
parlare di un giro OH nessun

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Manchmal wünsche ich, daß ich dieses Lied geschrieben hatte
Automatically translated into German thanks to WorldLingo
Tracy ambulanter Händler -- Talkin Zeitraum ein Revolution

Nicht kennen Sie Sie sprechen über eine Revolution, die
es wie ein Flüstern
nicht Sie kennt sie spricht über eine Revolution klingt,
es wie ein Flüstern klingt,

während sie in den Wohlfahrt Linien schreiend
an den Türstufen jener Armeen der Rettung Zeit
in den Arbeitslosigkeit Linien vergeudend stehen, die
um die Aufwartung einer Förderung sitzen,

nicht Sie kennen Sie sprechen über eine Revolution
sie wie ein Flüstern klingt,

arme Leute oben steigen werden
und zu erhalten ihrem Anteil
arme Leute oben steigen werden
und zu nehmen was ihr

nicht Sie kennen Sie laufen besser ist, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, laufen Sie, Durchlauf, sagte
laufen gelassenes OH- I, daß Sie besser laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, laufen, Durchlauf,

schließlich, welches die Tabellen beginnen, das Sprechen
über eine Revolution zu drehen,
schließlich die Tabellen beginnen, das Sprechen
über eine Revolution OH- zu drehen kein
über eine Revolution OH- keine Weile

sprechen, sie in den Wohlfahrt Linien schreiend
an den Türstufen jener Armeen der Rettung Zeit
in den Arbeitslosigkeit Linien vergeudend stehen, die
um die Aufwartung einer Förderung sitzen,

nicht Sie kennen Sie sprechen über eine Revolution,
sie wie ein Flüstern klingt

und schließlich beginnen die Tabellen, das Sprechen
über eine Revolution zu drehen,
schließlich die Tabellen zu beginnen drehen Sie
das Sprechen über eine Revolution OH- kein
Sprechen über eine Revolution OH- kein
Sprechen über eine Revolution OH- kein

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Às vezes eu desejo que eu tinha escrito esta canção
Automatically translated into Portuguese thanks to WorldLingo
Chapman de Tracy -- Bout de Talkin um a volta

Você não o conhece está falando sobre uma volta que
soa como um sussurro
você não os sabe está falando sobre uma volta
soa como um sussurro

quando estiverem nas linhas do bem-estar
que gritam nos doorsteps daqueles exércitos do salvation
que desperdiçam o tempo nas linhas do desemprego
que se sentam em torno de esperar um promotion

você não o conhecem estão falando sobre uma volta
soe como um sussurro

os povos pobres estão indo se levantar acima
e para começar a sua parte
os povos pobres estão indo se levantar acima
e para fazer exame de o que é dele

você não o conhece funciona mais melhor, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcione, funcionam, funcionam, funcione, funcione
Oh I disse que você mais melhor funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funciona, funcionamento

finalmente que as tabelas estão começando girar
falar sobre uma volta
finalmente as tabelas começarem girar
não falar sobre uma volta oh nenhum
falar sobre uma volta oh nenhum

quando estão estando nas linhas do bem-estar
que gritam nos doorsteps daqueles exércitos do salvation
que desperdiçam o tempo nas linhas do desemprego
que se sentam em torno de esperar um promotion

você não o conhecem estão falando sobre uma volta
soe como um sussurro

e finalmente as tabelas estão começando girar
falar aproximadamente uma volta
finalmente que as tabelas estão começando girar
não falar sobre uma volta oh nenhum
não falar sobre uma volta oh nenhum
não falar sobre uma volta oh nenhum

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Ibland önskar jag att jag hade skriftligt denna song
Automatically translated into Swedish thanks to WorldLingo
Tracy gårdfarihandlare -- Talkin anfall per rotation

Inte vet du dig talar om en rotation som
det låter något liknande, en viskning
dig inte vet dem talar om en rotation,
det låter något liknande ett viskning

tag, de står i välfärden fodrar
gråt på trösklarna av de arméer av räddning,
tära tid i arbetslöshet fodrar
sammanträde runt om att vänta en befordran

dig inte vet dig talar om en rotation,
det låter något liknande en viskning,

det fattiga folket går till löneförhöjningen upp,
och att få deras aktie
fattiga går tar folket till löneförhöjningen
upp och vad är deras

dig inte vet dig den bättre körningen, körningen, körningen, körningen, körningen, körningen, körningen, körningen, körning, kör, kör, kör, kör
, kör, kör, kör, kör, kör, kör, kör, bordlägger den körningen slutligen är starta att vända tala om en rotation slutligen bordlägger

är starta att vända samtal om
en rotation oh av inget samtal
om en rotation oh av inga stunder som de
står i välfärden fodrar
gråt på trösklarna av de

arméer av räddning, tära tid i arbetslöshet fodrar
sammanträde runt om att vänta en befordran dig inte
vet dig talar om
en rotation, den låter något liknande

en viskning, och slutligen bordlägger är starta att vända samtal
omkring, kör kör,

kör, kör Oh I sade dig den bättre
körningen en
rotation bordlägger slutligen är starta att vända
samtal om en rotation oh av inget
samtal om en rotation oh av inget
samtal om en rotation oh av ingen

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Иногда я желаю я написало эту песню
Automatically translated into Russian thanks to WorldLingo
Chapman Трейси -- Bout Talkin виток

Вы не знаете вас talk about виток, котор
они звучают как шепот
вы не знают их talk about виток
оно звучает как шепот

пока они стоят в линиях благосостояния
плача на doorsteps тех армий спасения
расточительствуя время в линиях незанятости
сидя вокруг ждать промотирование

вы не знают вас talk about виток
он звучает как шепот

плохие люди идут поднять вверх
и получить их доле
плохие люди идут поднять вверх
и принять theirs

вы не знает вас более лучше бежит, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, побегите, бег, котор побежали
Oh iий сказал вы более лучше бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бежит, бег

окончательно, котор таблицы начинают повернуть
talk about виток
окончательно таблицы начинают повернуть
talk about виток oh никакой
talk about виток oh никакой

промежуток времени они стоят в линиях благосостояния
плача на doorsteps тех армий спасения
расточительствуя время в линиях незанятости
сидя вокруг ждать промотирование

вы не знают вас talk about виток
он звучает как шепот

и окончательно таблицы начинают повернуть
talk about виток
окончательно таблицы начинают к поверните
talk about виток oh никакой
talk about виток oh никакой
talk about виток oh никакое

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

Soms dit wens ik ik dit lied had geschreven
Automatically translated into Dutch thanks to WorldLingo
Chapman van Tracy -- De Periode van Talkin een Revolutie

Kent u u niet spreekt over een revolutie
het als een gefluister
niet u het weet zij spreekt over een revolutie klinkt
het als een gefluister klinkt

terwijl zij zich in de welzijnslijnen die bij
de drempels van die legers die van redding schreeuwen tijd
in werkloosheidslijnen Rondhangend
verspillen het wachten op een bevordering

niet u het weten u spreken over een revolutie bevinden
het als een gefluister klinkt

de Slechte mensen gaan stijgen
en hun aandeel Slechte
mensen krijgen gaan stijgen
en nemen wat theirs

niet u het weet u beter loopt, loopt, loopt, loopt, loopt, loopt, loopt, loopt, loopt is, looppas, looppas, looppas, looppas
Oh die ik u in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, in werking stelt, beter in werking stelt definitief

de lijsten begint om het Spreken over
een revolutie heb gezegd te draaien
definitief de lijsten beginnen om het Spreken van
over een revolutie oh te draaien geen
het Spreken over een geen revolutie oh

terwijl zij zich bevinden in de welzijnslijnen die
schreeuwen bij de drempels van die legers die van redding
verspillen tijd in werkloosheidslijnen
Rondhangend het wachten op een bevordering

niet u het weten u spreken over een revolutie
het klinkt als een gefluister

en definitief de lijsten beginnen om het Spreken
over te draaien een revolutie
definitief de lijsten beginnen om het Spreken van
over een revolutie oh te draaien geen
het Spreken over een revolutie oh geen
het Spreken over een revolutie oh geen

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SKYWOwWAguk&feature=PlayList&p=FF3C37D14336BA7D&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=26

أحيانا يتمنّى أنا أنا كنت قد كتبت هذا أغنية
Automatically translated into Arabic thanks to WorldLingo
[ترسي] بائع متجوّل -- [تلكين'] نوبة [ا] ثورة

لا يعرف أنت أنت [تلك بووت] ثورة
هو يصوّت مثل همس
لا أنت يعرف هم يكون [تلك بووت] ثورة
هو يصوّت مثل همس

بينما هم يكون يقفون في الخير خطوط
يصرخ في الأعتاب من أنّ جيوش الإنقاذ
يبدّد وقت في بطالة خطوط
يجلس حول ينتظر لترقية

لا أنت يعرف أنت يكون [تلك بووت] ثورة
هو يصوّت مثل همس

الناس فقيرة يكون يذهبون أن يرتفع فوق
وحصلت سهمهم
الناس فقيرة يكون يذهبون أن يرتفع فوق
وأخذت ماذا يكون خاصّتي

لا أنت يعرف أنت على نحو أفضل يركض, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, ركضت, شوط, قال يركض
[أه] [إي] أنت على نحو أفضل تركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, يركض, شوط

أخيرا الطاولات يكون يبدأون أن يلتفت
[تلك بووت] ثورة
أخيرا الطاولات يكون يبدأون أن يلتفت
[تلك بووت] ثورة [أه] ما من
[تلك بووت] ثورة [أه] ما من

فترة هم يكون يقفون في الخير خطوط
يصرخ في الأعتاب من أنّ جيوش الإنقاذ
يبدّد وقت في بطالة خطوط
يجلس حول ينتظر لترقية

لا أنت يعرف أنت يكون [تلك بووت] ثورة
هو يصوّت مثل همس

وأخيرا الطاولات يبدأون أن يلتفت
[تلك بووت] ثورة
أخيرا الطاولات يكون يبدأون إلى التفتت
[تلك بووت] ثورة [أه] ما من
[تلك بووت] ثورة [أه] ما من
[تلك بووت] ثورة [أه] ما من

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I dated this guy for 3 months and I was really into him and then he broke up with me last month out of the blue. I just don’t understand why and it’s not like we only dated for a couple of weeks. We got along really well, we had a lot in common and his friends really seemed to like me. I just didn’t see it coming. I tried to get him back but he doesn’t want to get back together. I just feel like he didn’t see my ‘A-Game’! I want another chance! What should I do?

I hate to say it…but this kind of sounds like a ‘he’s just not that into you’ situation. When people find themselves at the receiving end of a break up they have a lot of the power taken away from them. It’s natural to try to take control of the situation by figuring out ways to improve the relationship or figure out things that you might have done wrong but the reality is that there isn’t anything that you could have changed. There are probably a lot of reasons that the relationship didn’t work out. It hard to speculate what those reasons are but realistically it could have been a number of things. He might not have been ready to settle down in a relationship or he might not have felt the same connection that you felt. Either way, even if he was to agree to try again, chances are that he would still feel the same way and that would eventually lead to the same result.

Relationships often seem longer when you’re in them, but from an external point of view it doesn’t seem like the relationship lasted that long. It seems like it was just long enough for both of you to decide whether or not you were compatible. It’s hard because obvious you felt like he was someone that you wanted to continue a relationship with and he didn’t feel that way. But it’s likely that he wasn’t making that decision impulsively and that’s something that you need to come to terms with.

Also, you didn’t mention much about the break-up itself but based on your question it sounds like it was kind of ambiguous. I encourage you to ask him why the relationship ended and why he didn’t want to continue. Without knowing, you’re going to continue to think that there was something that you could have changed or done to make him want to stay in a relationship with you. It’s possible that he won’t want to answer your questions but it’s natural to want to know and getting answers to some of your questions might help resolve some of the feelings that you’re experiencing. I know that you think that he didn’t see your ‘A-Game’ but the person that you were for those 3 months was probably a more accurate representation of your personality and your A-Game would be exact that, a game.

I know it’s hard to see it now but this is actually a good thing. Why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who has doubts about you? You deserve more than that. What’s good is that now you’ve identified some characteristics that you want your partner to have. Everyone leaves each relationship with valuable lessons and now you will be able to apply them to your next relationship.

I’ve been good friends with this guy for 3 years and in the beginning we had a thing for each other but it never worked out. We go to different schools now but we still talk to each other a lot and our mutual friends think that we should date. He kept asking me out until about a year ago but friends have told me that he’s a player and that he has other girls. The problem is that now I’m starting to like him a lot and I don’t know if I should tell him. Should I tell him or not? And I’m not sure if he would give up other girls just to be with someone who lives 2 hours away.

So let me get this straight. You used to have a thing for this guy but it didn’t work out and now that you’re at different schools you’re developing feelings for him. I think I might have a few theories:

1) Have you ever heard the saying ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’? It’s likely that distance is at least in part to blame for this emotional confusion. Think about it, you’ve tried it out and it didn’t work and now that you’re not seeing each other regularly (I’m assuming) you start to develop feelings for him again. For the most part, the more time you spend with someone, the more the problems become noticeable. Distance glosses over most of the imperfection and over time, you begin to forget about the problems.

2) You might be missing his attention. You mentioned that he asked you out repeatedly after your thing fizzled and that he stopped about a year ago. It’s flattering being chased and when it goes away it makes you want that attention back.

3) If you aren’t currently in a relationship it’s possible that you’re just missing being in one. Sometimes when we’re single we reconsider some of our discards and try to minimize their negative qualities to see if there was some way that we could have made it work.

That being said, you’ve got two options: tell him or don’t tell him. If you tell him, what’s the worst that could happen? He could say no but you’re luckily 2 hours away so you don’t even need to have the awkwardness of running into him all the time. Or he could say yes and you guys could give it another shot and see what comes of it. If you don’t tell him then you will either dwell on your feelings for him and they might intensify or they might eventually fade and you’ll meet someone else who’s a little bit closer to you. Either way, these are things that you need to weigh out in your mind for yourself. With regards to the other girls, that might be a part of his personality. If he is someone who is naturally very flirtatious, your jealousy of the other girls will be heightened in a long distance relationship with him. Whether he would give up the other girls to be in a long-distance relationship with you is not a question that I can answer. It’s different for different people. On the one hand lots of people are in relationships with partners that live much further away but on the other hand I’ve got friends who’ve ended relationships with their partners because they lived in Toronto. Either way, make sure you think this through a little bit more before you make your final decision.

I've been messing around with this guy who I thought I liked. It lasted for quite awhile. But, when things started to get serious, I started to realize that I was only doing it to get over this other guy. The guy that I was messing around with recently told me that he loves me. I was honest enough to tell him that I had feelings for someone else and now he’s stopped talking to me. I want to stay friends with him but he is ignoring me and going out of his way to avoid me. Should I continue to try and stay friends with him? Or, should I just leave him alone?

Ouch! He told you that he loved you and you told him that you wanted someone else? I know that you probably thought that you were doing the right thing but expecting him to take it well seems like a little bit too much to ask.

1) Put yourself in his shoes, if someone said that to you what would you want? Probably some time and space. Most likely he is hurt and feels a little bit foolish. I think that seeing and talking to you might intensify anything that he’s feeling right now. Give him some time to decide what he wants to do and respect the decision that he makes. Rejection is really hard to get over and it’s possible that he might not get over it.

2) Kudos for being honest, but expecting him to respect your honesty right away seems unrealistic. Also, it seems like he’s being honest with you in return by showing you that he doesn’t want to be around you right now. You did the right thing by telling him how you feel because it would have been worse if you had led him on. But it seems like you aren’t really respecting his decision to choose whether or not he wants to continue your friendship. It’s understandable that you want to remain friends with him because there is obviously a reason that you two became close to begin with and why he ended up feeling so strongly about you but things have changed and that might permanently affect your friendship.

Keep in mind that it’s impossible to be friends with someone who is actively avoiding you. I think you should let him know the reasons why you value your friendship with him and don’t want it to end but ultimately the decision to stay friends with you is up to him. Also, I would try giving him some time so that the some of the hurt feelings that he experienced from being rejected can fade.

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for almost 4 years now and we’ve always been open with each other. We’ve obviously had our share of problems but they were mostly small. The thing is I’ve always had this big problem with his best friend that I’ve never really brought it up with him. For almost his entire life he’s been best friends with this really pretty and cute girl and I like her a lot too but I can’t help but feel threatened. I trust my boyfriend, but he’s told me that they dated when they were teenagers and I feel like it could happen again. They are really close and they spend a lot of time together. How do I know if I’m being paranoid?

Well, it’s hard to really answer this without knowing more about your situation. I can say that based on what you’ve described so far that you aren’t being paranoid. Paranoia is an irrational fear but the jealousy that you’re describing doesn’t seem pretty rational: your boyfriend is spending a lot of time with someone who is attractive and they have a history. I think what you’re feeling is completely justified. In this situation there’s really only one thing that I can suggest: talk to him.

So often, the smallest problems turn into big deals because we keep them to ourselves. You’ve been dating your boyfriend for quite some time and I imagine your jealousy must grow every time he says he’s spending time with her. I’m assuming that you don’t want to come across as the stereotypical jealous girlfriend by telling him that you are insecure about his friendship, but chances are that there’s nothing going on and talking to him about it will likely make you feel better about it. He’s been friends with her his whole life and he’s known you for much less time than that and when it came down to picking a girlfriend, he chose you. That actually says a lot about how he feels about you. I get that it can seem like there’s more there because they used to date but there is a reason that that relationship ended and why they decided to be friends instead. Talking to him about this jealousy will help him be more considerate of you when he’s spending time with her and it might even be a relief to finally get this out in the open. And if it turns out that you weren’t just being paranoid and that something is actually going on, you will have found out about it sooner rather than later.

When it comes to insecurities, being open is always the best approach because over time it starts to affect your relationship more and more. A good partner should be willing to put up with irrational fears and insecurities because everybody has them. The first step to fixing this problem is talking about it, and I know that that’s easier said than done.

Dear SEC, this isn’t really a question. It’s more like a situation. I’m finally in love. It’s the best feeling ever. The only problem is everything else. I’m behind on all my course work, my parents are starting to bug me about spending time with them and I won’t even get started about my friends. I don’t know what to do. I can’t concentrate on anything else.

I can’t pretend to be an expert on love. To quote an expert, “Being chosen by the one you chose is one of the glories of falling in love. It generates a feeling of intense personal importance. I matter. You confirm my significance.” (Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity). What you’re going through is incredibly common. Balancing love and life, especially in the beginning, is hard to do because of the changes that it makes in you as a person. I can suggest a couple of things but I definitely don’t have a cure for this:

1) Love needs distance to grow. Because there is a lot of existing distance in the beginning you almost try to make up for it by spending as much time together as possible. Keep in mind that concentrating too much on the relationship in beginning might dry up any hope for mystery later on.

2) Also, it’s impossible to talk about love without including time honoured clichés. Things like, “relationships end, friends are forever”, etc. It’s important to remember that you had a pre-existing life prior to this relationship. While it might seem like all you want to do is spend time with your partner, you did enjoy the time with your friends and family before this relationship came along. Try to rekindle some of that by spending more time with the other people in your life.

It’s possible that these intense feelings with eventually fade or become less intense and then you can start to reintegrate other aspects of your life that you’ve been neglecting. But are you willing to gamble your academics and your other relationships on this possibility? If you want your relationship to be long-lasting you’re going to need to figure out a way to fit it into the rest of your life.

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